K and H update

Alright… those of you that have been following my blog may be wondering about that fact that I haven’t posted anything about either K or H lately.  You may remember that in my last post about them, I thought I may have permanently damaged my relationships (whatever form they may be in) with both of them.  Well.  Not so much.

The day after K apologized for making me feel bad and saying he would step back or step off or something, he emailed me several more apologies and then asked to make plans to hang out the following evening, in his neighborhood, because he is allergic to my cats.  So we did.  The day that we hung out, he texted me earlier on and asked if I was still planning on coming over that night.  I texted back and said, “are you planning on coming to pick me up?”  His answer was, “On Bart?” (For those of you not in the SF Bay Area, Bart stands for Bay Area Rapid Transit and is our rail system that goes all over the Bay Area.)

So I thought about how to answer that for a bit.  I didn’t want to take Bart to meet him.  I was over it enough at that point, that I wanted to be picked up at my apartment.  While I was contemplating my answer, he texted back saying he would come get me and asked for my address.  I wasn’t even “waiting” to answer on purpose… just trying to figure out what I was going to say, but the waiting worked because I got what I wanted.

We hung out and had a really fun time.  We talked about the old days and I saw his apartment, which was really cute.  Although I still like mine better. And he drove me home at the end of the evening.  Since then he has emailed or texted me at least once a day to find out how I am doing.  Which I have to say feels nice.  I know there is no real romantic potential here, but it’s nice to have a friend and feel more appreciated. 

As far as H goes.  He was totally fine after that first few minutes after he read the blog that pissed him off.  He just had his feelings hurt, but he got it.  And I think that there is a purpose for him in my life.

In some ways, he reminds me of the bastard I dated last year, yet for the most part he is honest with me and I still like him.  I enjoy hanging out with him.  I think seeing how he is from the outside, because although H is honest with me, I don’t think he is with everyone,  gives me a little insight into my relationship with the bastard from last year.

Again, I don’t think H outright lies, but he omits and lies by intention.  The difference was that the guy from last year outright lied.  So I think that by appreciating who he is as a person, I can perhaps start to understand a little who the guy from last year was.  And although he treated me poorly, there were a lot of things I clearly liked about him and maybe now I need to just forgive him, and leave that whole thing behind.